Okay, remember when you were 18? I guess I've been thinking about change...well, a lot lately. Sometimes I think about how much I've changed since then, and I feel like a completely different person. And then at other times I might find myself thinking about how people I knew back then used to be...and I guess I wonder if they've changed too, or maybe not (no, I'm not thinking about anyone here or necessarily anyone in particular)? So here is the question: How have you changed as a person since you were 18. I don't mean environmentally speaking, or the fact that you have kids now, I mean who you are as a person. What's different now?
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I would just like to say I am 20 in that picture. Not 18.
I would just like to say that I really did think you were 18 in the picture. Sorry! But come on, you're living the free wheelin' datin' college live, that's the image I'm going for here! But not after July 1st that is.
Buffy Robinson?
You know Katie, we lived on robinson church rd and our first dog was named buffy....put it together and you get Andrea's "special" name.
Let's see, 18:
Selfish
Boy crazy
played the piano 3 hours a day
Went to church cuz' i was supposed too
A good friend
Boy crazy
spontaneous(both in words and actions)
Careless and carefree (I miss this a little)
Cocky
oh yeah and boy crazy!!
Now at 28:
Mostly selfless, with occasional acts of selfishness
Boy crazy- my son is really cute
play the piano 3 min. a day, and teach it
Have a solid testimony and go to church because i want to and want to instill the gospel in my children
Still a good friend and a much better daughter
I'm still a little spontaneous, it just takes me ALOT longer to get out the door!
Careful and worried about everything and anything my kids could do, might do, Have thought about doing, and have been asked to do. Also worried about what they have seen, heard, or if they havent' heard enough of me teaching them to choose the right.
I'm stil a little cocky, but only because I'm gorgeous, funny, and awesome, and really really humble. :)
I like Steph's style.
Me at 18:
-incredibly emotional
-lots of ups and downs
-learning how to have fun and loving it!
-thought I was much smarter than I really am
-not a good listener
-a good friend
-pretty selfish, I attribute this mostly to the fact that at eighteen your frontal cortex is really not all that developed so it's dang hard to think of much more than what's going on in that very moment! Okay, and yeah, I was just selfish
-very dependent on others
Flash forward to now at 24
-MOTHERHOOD CHANGES EVERYTHING
that's really all I need to put. But I"ll go on. I feel like I think of others so much more now that I have children because I really know what it feels like to be in need. I needed a lot of help after my children were born and struggled a lot (and still do), so I am very empathetic to those going through this family journey.
-when it comes to how smart I think I am, I just know that kids make a lier out of you constantly, and you really don't know anything except your own testimony-anything else is questionable!!!
-I feel like I know what is important now. I used to stress out over my job so much and now if I could go back it would be a piece of cake compared to now!
-I think I know how to be a better friend now than I did back then. I am also SO much more stable. I feel like after I figured out that the most important thing in my life is the knowledge I have that I am a child of God and that means that I am special, unique, blessed and most of all important in the eyes of God--once I really gained a testimony of that I have never felt the instability and depression I used to. I can have a bad day, but my foundation is strong and I have the gospel and a good husband to lean on. I've come a long way.
Good questions this week.
At 18 I had just graduated High school from the Philippines and thought the USA walked on water.
Loved my family but glad to be going away to college.
Single and what I thought was sexy.
Had no car, no worries, no bills, no responsibilty other than school.
would have traded lifes with anyone cause you think you are the o nly one who has it that bad. (and its not that bad)
Now at 27 I am married with children and feel the constant strain of life.
I have bills, 2 cars, a house, a calling in church, and all the responsibilty of taking care of children and a husband.
I think I would still trade life with anyone but would want to be younger, cuter and sexier!!
This is interesting. 18 was interesting. I'm sure Maurine remembers. And I bet she thought I was a freaking idiot. I probably was. On one aspect, 18 was fabulous! Like, exactly what you imagine it should be. I think about that time and I get a feeling in my chest - and not necessarily a bad one. An exciting one. It was like I was in a constant flutter. But then, on another aspect, 18 was ridiculous. I was confused. Really confused. Boys. A number of them. And not just fun little things - like, total relationships individually. Am I remembering that right Maurine? It really was ridiculous, right? Anyways, that's what my life revolved around. Completely. I remember lots of fun times with Tiffany and Maurine, and then just boys. There wasn't much more depth than that. And I don't know how to explain who I was as a person then, because that's just all there is. I felt like I was a good person. I wasn't naughty or anything. I guess I was pretty selfish, but who isn't? And I can't even say I was careless or silly, because at that time I felt like it was totally for real. Everything was important. Now I see how silly it all was, but I don't think I would change anything if I could. It was a fun time. But I'm glad it's over. Life is better now. I may not be in a constant state of flutter, but there are about a million times a day where I stop and think "Wow, life is amazing. I am so blessed." I know I never thought that before.
I'm much more content to be by myself. It used to depress me, but now it's nice.
I don't need constant excitement - just reading on the couch with Zach is enough.
I feel fulfilled by different things now. Like having all the laundry clean at one time or not having any dishes or seeing Zach and Quinn play together. And cooking really good food. That makes me feel amazing.
I think much more about what others think of me now than I used to. I don't want them to think I'm rude or bad or anything like that. But that could just be my circumstances and location. I don't think I ever worried about that much before I got married. Now I've got someone else's reputation to be careful with.
I've always wanted to be a good person, but I think now I put forth more of an effort. I don't just wish it.
I'm sure I'm much more boring now, but I still think I'm fabulous. And hilarious. And smokin' hot.
And I'm still completely consumed with boys, but in a much healthier way. :)
Katie, yes things were crazy back then, and you scared me to death with all those boys...at one time! I think I tried to mention it to you once that I thought you were in a little over your head, but you really weren't in the mood to hear me out. But then you met Zach a couple of months later anyway and a whole new set of crazy problems started! I learned a lot from observing your situation(s). But it all ended happily in the end, and I'm glad you ended up with Zach and none of those other guys.
Me too. Trust me. Wow. And I bet you LOVED "observing." You probably could have written a book about it.
Biggest downfall to it all - Last night, out of nowhere, I dreamed about Matt Burton. That's the problem with a silly past - it lingers around and pops up when you really don't feel like thinking about it anymore. Don't you hate that? Ugh.
That's his name!!!! I have been trying to remember that now forever, Katie!! :) I was thinking the other day about the pictures you took for us (before and after) of Ronnie and I...and I remembered you borrowed 'Burton's' camera..and I was trying to think of his first name! ...Sorry Maurine, just had to mention that to Katie. :)
Okay...wow, me at 18 and now almost 28?? I don't even want to think about it. I do know that I am not the same person I was at 18. I hoping in a good way. It is true how they say, "Motherhood changes everything." It really does...good and not so good ways. :) Not only that but-marriage does too. I like what Katie said about -how it's not just her reputation anymore. I read an article in a mag that talked about how family and friends will say "It's different when you're married." That is to say, before marriage one might think, Oh nothing will change, just my name, address, etc. Well, it's much more than that, and it's so wild...(but true for me at least)! ;)
I heard a good quote recently and it was something like, "You sacrifice for who you love and you love who you sacrifice for."
It is SO true!!
Wow, great thread you started here Maurine. I know I'm a little late, but hey, I just found your blog, thanks to Carmen's blog. Anyway...18. Hahaha, was my first thought. I really like what Katie said. Life was great then..sometimes not so great...sometimes just plain old aweful (at least that's what I thought)...but really mostly great. Motherhood really does change you completely. No more time to be selfish. Boy crazy does turn into being crazy for the boys of my house :Jack, Tyler and now Jacob too. Thank goodness I jumped town and found Jack...whew it was a close one. We sure had some good times didn't we? Anyway...nice trip down memory lane.
katie- it does stink when your past lingers around in the deep parts of your brain and pops up out of no where in your dreams.
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