For those of us who are married, I don't know about you, but when I became married, and even more-so when I had kids, I became the constant target of advice. Advice on everything one could imagine! So the question is, what is the best advice you have received, or even better, what is the best advice you have to give about marriage and kids. Have fun!
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Best advice I can give, but hard to follow. Live for each moment. Be excited in everything. Life goes so fast and before you know it the kids are gone. Make time for the two of you as a couple, cause when the kids are gone, you will be glad you did.
Advice I've received - I don't remember. I tend to block it out as soon as it is uttered.
However i LOVE giving advice.
This is the advice I've always wished that I would have received: Just admit that you have no idea - whatsoever - about anything.
best advice I ever received:
When your husband puts his dirty socks and underwear on the floor, roll them up and put them back in his drawer. Eventually he'll learn where the laundry basket is.
Best advice i've ever given :
Not sure really. Probably just not to listen to people's advice. ESPECIALLY on parenting.
I was thinking for this particular question you could just put whatever the heck comes to your mind first would be fun.
Best advice on babies: came from good ole' steph. If you want your new baby to go to "bed" at night. Make sure and keep them up for at least three hours before "bedtime" and they'll usually get the concept of night time.
Best advice on marriage: this one's from me: jut don't yell at each other. You don't yell at someone you respect (or at least we should really try not too). This is my personal rule, and I think it has helped me in many a situation. Also, I try to never express my emotions while I'm really uh...emotional. I find that if I talk while I'm super angry, It's just bitter and mean, and I don't really mean any of it. But if I wait to talk until I've calmed down, I can find out what is really bothering me and that's what we talk about!
Last week I was sick with the chicken pox and Zach's mom came and took over for four days. It was awesome. And I learned a lot from watching her with Quinn. She would go on walks with him every day just to go see the three legged goat that lives at the end of our street. And she didn't put Quinn in the stroller, she just let him walk. And it took forever just to get to the end of the street and back. He LOVED it. And there's no reason that I can't do that with him every day. They did things like that all day. And it looked like so much fun! Sure I've got laundry and dishes and all that fun stuff, but honestly, what's more important? So my new advice that I'm trying to follow is "Stop being such a mom and start being more like Grandma." I've enjoyed Quinn a lot more lately when I've followed that advice.
Marriage advice? I hope this isn't too scandalous for anyone out there... But I honestly feel like good sex often is usually the answer. Everyone feels better. And don't be afraid to make it fun. :)
Also, I heard a story about a couple who received the advice that they should only fight naked. Everytime they ever got in an argument the husband would say "Are we fighting?!" and start tearing his clothes off. I think that sounds like good adive.
On a more realistic note I guess - Don't let pride be a reason for fighting. Get over yourself and just admit when you did something dumb. Don't let it cause a rift simpy because you don't want to feel stupid. That's not a good enough reason.
Here's one for worst advice: anyone that tells me all I need to do is to give Bryant a "good spanking". Thanks. If all it would take for Bryant to behave was one good spanking I would do it. But I really think it would take several really mean spankings to work, so I'll try something else...
Katie -
You should definitely be giving out advice more often!
I'll second that! :) Katie, I like your advice!! hehehe
Thanks ladies. :)
Also, I've heard the spanking advice. And it makes me feel sick. I'm sure there will be a time in Quinn's life when I feel like a good spanking is the answer, but at this point I see no good that can come from it. I always thought I would be a spanker for some reason. And I thought Zach and I would clash because I knew he would never be a spanker. But then he explained to me why he didn't think he would ever spank one of our kids. He said "Do you think Christ would ever spank His child?" That summed it up pretty good for me. Now I don't think I could ever spank him. I think I would probably cry for days if I ever did. All I can imagine is that he would look at me and say "Mama, why are you hurting me?" And that'd be it. My life would be over.
K, I guess that's a little dramatic but... Maurine, maybe spanking could be your next topic?
I already have my questions ready for this week, but I'll put it on the roll for next time. I'll try to think of an interesting way too errrr...phrase it. Cause' I know some spankers and nonspankers read read this. I also know it is a very sensitive issue. (And Katie, remember, Quinn's not even two). I still haven't given Bryant that first spank yet, but Erick has, and frankly, Bryant really did deserve it! If you want to see why look at my facebook album "The worst day ever" after he did that little number he broke a child-sized mop and put an eight foot long scratch on our new wood floor. After all that he got a spank! But I still don't consider myself a spanker. ANyways, we'll make a question out of it.
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